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Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Women on Top Position

Woman on Top Sex Positions
Ahh, control. Sometimes it seems that sex is all about control, and so much of that sexual control is all about the man, and how he exercises it. That is what makes women-on-top positions so revolutionary in some ways. It is a chance for both parties to switch roles and try something new.
Having your women on top can take many different forms, all of which are discussed in the following sections, but what makes the biggest difference from other sexual positions is the control that the women have in these sexual endeavors. There is a general assumption that men have all the power in sex and that practicing women-dominant sexual position is somehow a completely female power issue. But if you look more closely it is clearly noted that in many ways giving up some of the responsibility for pleasure in bed can give men a break, and a chance to lie back and enjoy the ride. Instead of worrying about lasting and thrusting and making sure that your women orgasms, being on the bottom and in a less active role, can let men focus on their breathing and their pleasure.
At precisely the same moment this means that women, who, for the most part have always been at the mercy of their lover to achieve pleasure, can charge forward in search of their orgasm. They can position their lover’s penis so that it hits all their hot spots, or so that they can grind their man’s pelvis against their clitoris. By taking control of their sexuality women can sometimes be able to enjoy it more and more likely get what they are looking for from the sexual experiences. Women on our panel have suggested that a man that loves to ridden or at least enjoys more women dominated sexual positions, can gain access to secret sexual desires far more than a selfish lover. Listen up boys, this is for you as much as it is for her.



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Reverse Mastery

Monday, March 26, 2007

Sex Toys

Welcome to the sex toy section. This section will introduce, or broaden your knowledge of, the world of (to be politically correct) Sex Toys. Whether this information helps you to become a savvy shopper, or a more knowledgeable user, will depend on your existing knowledge. But, we hope everyone will find something useful here.
Enjoy …
CareThis article explains how to take care of the different materials toys are made with. Keeping your toys properly clean is vital to maintaining your toys.
MaterialsThis article explains how to take care of the different materials toys are made with. Keeping your toys properly clean is vital to maintaining your toys.
Tips on ChoosingWith so many sex toys out there, knowing which to start with can be quite the task! This article will walk you through what you need to know to make the right call.
Why Get a ToySome reasons for why starting a sex toy collection is a good idea.
Types of Sex Toys
Anal Sex ToysOverview of the most popular toys made for anal penetration.
Cock RingsOverview of traditional and vibrating cock rings.
DildosOverview of the most common dildo types.
Penis ExtensionsOverview of penis extensions; generally strap-on dildos with hollow centers for the real penis to sit in.
Sex Toys for MenOverview of the most popular toys for men.
VibesOverview of the most common vibrator types.

Vaginal Massage

When performing the following, make sure that your fingers are well lubricated. There is nothing more uncomfortable (and painful) than a dry finger roughly rubbed across a woman's clitoris or pushed inside. See the sexual lubricants product page for information on useful lubricants. In most cases, proper foreplay stimulating a woman’s erogenous zones will usually avoid the problem of dryness. Nevertheless, it never hurts to keep a "tube of lube" sitting nearby. Under no circumstance should you put pressure or blame on your partner for this if it happens; work with her to get around it. It’s written all over this and every other sexual information site, but in case you have forgotten, communication is key.
Vaginal Massage
Most women masturbate by rubbing a finger or two over their clitoris, sometimes "through" the skin of their inner or outer lips, in a circular or back-and-forth motion. You can do this too, and it is most helpful to ask, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it done. Lie down side by side, and put your hand over hers while she shows you what she likes. You can also try having her hand over top of yours guiding.
Another technique which women are very receptive of is to have your partner lie on her back, spread her vaginal lips wide apart with your outer fingers, and use your middle finger to rapidly slide up and down her vagina rapidly and lightly grazing her clitoris. This motion alone will often bring a woman to orgasm. Don’t forget to use your mouth while you are fingering, keep kissing her, her neck, and all her other erogenous zones.
An excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick one, and later two or more, finger(s) inside her, with your palm cupped over the mons area. We're talking about that fleshy "mound" over her pubic bone. Your finger should have freedom to move in and out freely while the palm of your hand can add pressure against her vulva and clitoris. Once you get better, you can start moving your palm to add more stimulation.
Another, more intense motion is to position your hand so that you have one or two fingers inside her with your palm facing her body. Now bend your fingers inward and move them in rapid but short movements focusing on her G Spot. This technique can quickly bring your woman to orgasm, especially when combined with cunnilingus

Vagina Diagram

The female sexual organs are both internal and external. The clitoris, mons pubis, inner and outer lips, and the vaginal opening are external, and together are known as the vulva.
Like the penis, it contains sensitive nerve endings and becomes erect and filled with blood during stimulation; has no reproductive function.
Mons Pubis
The mons pubis is a rounded pad of tissue that lies on top of the pubic bone and is covered with pubic hair.
Labium Majora
The outer lips on both sides of the vaginal opening and are covered with pubic hair.
Labium Minora
The inner lips are hairless and folded, and lie between the outer lips and run along the edge of the vagina.
A passageway about 3 to 4 inches (8 to 10 centimetres) long; begins with the vaginal opening at the bottom, and connects to the cervix at the top. Also known as the birth canal.
It is about 1 ½ inches long, this leads from the bladder to the exterior, and is the passage through which urine is eliminated. It is just in front of the vagina.
It looks like an upside-down pear and is about the size of your fist; main function is to hold and feed a developing fetus; the cervix is the tiny donut-shaped neck of the uterus that lies at the top of the vagina and is the part a PAP smear is taken from; the inner layer of the uterus called endometrium, which is what is discarded during menstruation.
Fallopian Tubes
Fallopian tubes are very narrow; extend from the top sides of the uterus; the path along which eggs travel from the ovaries.
Ovaries are roughly the size of almonds; sit on each side of the uterus; produce eggs and female sex hormones, estrogen and progesterone.

Female Orgasme (2)

Using Sex Toys
Sex toys can be used in virtually any sexual position, and thanks to the creative people who design toys, if you can think of a toy, chances are its already made. Feel free to visit our online store to view all of the products, or follow the links below to find products designed to increase stimulation during intercourse. If you have never used a sex toy, you can read our article on using vibrators and our article on sex toy care.
Vibrating Clitoral Suckers
This class of products works as follows: put the cup part of the toy over the clitoral area, squeeze the pump a couple times to build up some suction, then turn on the vibrating egg, which is generally attached to the cup. The suction is great because it draws more blood to the clitoris, making it more sensitive, as well as it keeps the toy hands free. It can be used during intercourse to add incredible sensations, but some varieties may prove a little bulky for some positions. Click here to check out the selection.
Regular Vibrators
For those of you who are looking for something with a little more functionality, we recommend getting a regular vibrator. The can be held in place during intercourse to stimulate whatever you want, they can be inserted anally, and can be used on their own as well. They are available in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and purposes. Click here to check out the selection.
Vibrating Cock Rings
This class of products is ingenious! The toy is basically a ring with one or more vibrating eggs attached. Simply slide it down the shaft of the penis, turn on the vibrating eggs, and voila, super pleasure for both parties

Intercourse Orgasms

Before You Get Started
Some women seem to have an incredibly difficult time reaching orgasm during intercourse; that is if they are able to orgasm at all. The most common reason for this is that they don’t know their own bodies. Society has had this brilliant effect of instilling into our minds from childhood that masturbation is sinful, wrong and dirty. Well, everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, but all common sense dictates that this couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Thanks to this misconception, many people, especially women, have stopped themselves from learning their bodies, thereby reducing the chances of being able to fully enjoy sex. It is hard for many women to unlearn all that they have been taught, and they often feel that “touching themselves does not bring pleasure”. There is some truth behind that - they are not lying, they do not feel pleasure. However, this is not because there is no pleasure to be felt, just that they have been indirectly taught to not enjoy it. Getting beyond this will take time and patience, so never rush your partner.
If your woman has never had an orgasm (this is often the case if they say, “I think I’ve had one”), you will want to refer to the female masturbation article to get things started. Learning to please a woman who can’t orgasm on her own is extremely difficult, so we highly suggest that you start with getting her to play with herself, and allow her to learn how her body reacts to different stimulus.
The last note has to do with your approach. Orgasms can’t be forced, and the more pressure you put on her to cum, the less likely it is to happen. Take things slow, learn techniques, experiment with them and find what works. If you start getting frustrated when you aren’t seeing results, it will show, and unfortunately make it even harder. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable - as soon as you make it too serious, it takes away from the pleasure!
About Orgasms
There are two major types of orgasms a women can have …clitoral and G spot, otherwise known as vaginal orgasms. When masturbating, women usually learn to get themselves off using their clitoris. There is nothing wrong with that, but it leaves the whole world of vaginal orgasms untapped. Many women are unable to climax during intercourse, as they aren’t familiar enough with the stimulation to enjoy it to its fullest extent. While you learn to read your partner’s body signs, it never hurts to ask a question, especially if you are trying new techniques.
Coitus, commonly known as vaginal sex, can be one of the clumsiest ways to stimulate a woman, if done without thought. While it does provide an atmosphere that can be highly arousing, emotionally satisfying and erotic, the degree of stimulation to the woman's clitoral area is nothing compared to masturbation or cunnilingus. One can incorporate manual stimulation to the clitoris during sex, but this is not very necessary if your woman has had vaginal orgasms in the past, and if you know how to hit the g spot correctly. To learn more about positions and the g spot, please refer to the g spot article and positions section. No one wants to involve geometry into sex, but it is wise to know which positions stimulate the G spot the best. In order to help her achieve a vaginal orgasm, you need to make sure you are “hitting” the G spot with each stroke.
Many men fantasize about the myth of female ejaculation. Well, for starters, its no myth, most women should theoretically be able to have them. The key is g spot stimulation, but all of this is well described in the article on female ejaculation.
Some Ideas on Getting Her There:
First of, we would like to remind you to relax, and not to make her orgasm the purpose behind the encounter. The more of a goal you make it; the less likely it is that it will happen. Relax and enjoy yourselves, as that is the most important part.
The Grind
During Intercourse, you want to increase the pressure exerted on the woman's clitoris. This can be accomplished by rotating your hips just like when you are "grinding" on a dance floor. Try to really push against the front of her groin with the area just above the penis. Rocking back and forth or side to side is a really good way of getting started.
Rule of Thumb
With the woman sitting on top, the man should lie flat on his back, pelvic tilted upward, and stomach muscles tightened. You want to arch your hips upwards to improve the quality of “the Grind”; this can be achieved easily by putting a pillow under the man’s bum. He then should put his hand over the woman’s pubic region, and place his thumb on the woman’s clitoris. While the woman is riding her partner, he can simultaneously stimulate her clitoris.
T Position
With the woman lying on her back, the man should lie perpendicularly (i.e., at a right angle to her, thus forming the ‘T’), while straddling the woman’s far leg. Depending on the woman’s flexibility, this can be a great position for deep penetration, while exposing the clitoris for manual stimulation. This double stimulation is very gratifying and can often lead to the big “O” really quickly.
The Maximizer
The woman lies on her back, legs tightly held together. The man lies on top, or stands/kneels, in front. Instead of being directly in line with her, the man should be at a slight diagonal. Both of her legs should be over one shoulder, or on one side, of his body; he should begin penetration. This position is designed to maximize female clitoral stimulation and is easiest to perform with the man standing or kneeling (i.e. the woman should have her legs hanging off a counter, couch or bed).

G Spot

Where is the G Spot?
If your partner is lying on her back, then her Grafenberg Area, commonly known as the G Spot, is located roughly 1.5" inside her vagina on the upper wall. The most ultimate orgasms come from a woman having her G Spot stimulated. This area inside the vagina typically has a different texture; ridged (not as smooth) as the rest of her vagina, and when aroused feels spongy. A G Spot orgasm is often associated with the mystical legend of female ejaculation and 15-30 minutes of a euphoric sensation where she is in complete bliss... Don't expect much from her during this time, she is in heaven.
G Spot Technique
With your fingers approximately two to three inches in, move your fingers in even circles all around the inside of the vagina. It generally feels best if you keep consistent, firm pressure along the entire length of the vaginal walls while fingering. You may wish to give a LITTLE extra pressure towards her belly as long as you don't break the steady rotational rhythm. Stop rotating your fingers and rest your fingertips on the (usually slightly ridged) area of the vagina just behind the pubic bone and exert pressure towards her belly (upwards). This is direct G Spot stimulation, and it usually feels best if the fingers are subtly moving. You can move your fingers in small, slow circles, or point your fingers more sharply and rock them back and forth.
An advanced and very successful technique is a combination of the two. Trace the inside of her vagina with your finger(s), while moving in and out. Make sure that your fingertip always hits the g spot on each rotation. Finding a nice rhythm is critical in this technique, and when you get it right, she’ll be asking you how you learned that!
Stimulating G Spot During Intercourse
This topic is covered in greater detail in the vaginal intercourse article in the Intercourse section, but keep in mind the angle you position yourself during intercourse. Being able to stimulate the G Spot during intercourse will definitely increase the likelihood of your partner reaching orgasm through intercourse.
Sexual toys are a great way to enhance your sexual experiences. They can vibrate, stay hard, and best of all they don’t get tired. There is no better way to learn how to experience vaginal orgasms then by using a vibrator to help you figure out how to use your body better. If there is a way to stimulate it, there is a sex toy to automate the process and to no surprise this holds true when referring to the G Spot

Vagina and Fingering Techniques 2

An excellent way to learn more about pleasing your partner is to rest your fingers over hers while she is masturbating herself. Then do the reverse, with her fingers acting as guides for your own.
Off the Edge
Another form of genital massage can be done by holding a lubricated vaginal lip between your thumb and forefinger. While squeezing just a little, pull your fingers straight away from the woman's body. Your fingers will end up in the air an inch or two above her body. If she likes this, repeat it often.
Ask your partner to help you locate her ovaries. They can usually be felt in the deepest part of the vagina and to the far left or right. Some women will like you to massage this area, others will find it painful. Sensitivity will also vary with her menstrual status.
Proper Invite
Begin with a light, gentle caress that barely touches the inner thighs and pubic hair. Don't go much further until your partner's pelvis begins to arch upwards. Tease and caress until the lips of her vulva invite your fingers to come play.
After applying lubrication, it might be nice to begin with one of the large outer lips. Place the lip between your thumb and forefinger, clasping it at the base where it attaches to the main part of the woman's body. Then run your fingers (or fingertip) from the lower to upper part of the lip, as though you were tracing one side of a parenthesis. Repeat this as long as your partner's feedback is positive.
Crecent Moon
Insert your thumb in her vagina, curl your palm around onto her clitoris, and rest your fingertips on top of her pubic bone. Alternate stimulation between the internal G-Spot, the clitoris, and the external G-Spot\bladder.
Four Directions
With two fingers press firmly up/side/down/side in her vagina, eight times each side
Gentle Touch and Tickle
Tickle the clitoris extremely lightly.
Healing Thrust
Some women might need and want good, hard, deep, vigorous thrusting penetration. Be sure to keep her relaxed - don't let her get tensed.
Pinch and Pull
Gently pinch and pull on the clitoris.
Rock Around the Clit
With your forefinger make tiny circles, stopping at every 'hour'.
Temple Gate Tease
With one finger, tickle her vaginal opening as lightly as possible.
Tour de France
Orbit your forefinger around between her inner and outer labia from perineum to above her clitoris.
Triple Digit Pet
Use your three longest fingers, with your middle finger gliding along the outside of her vaginal opening and your other two fingers running along the area where her thigh meets her labia.
Twist and Shout
Using one or more fingers, massage in and out while twisting at the wrist.

Vagina Fingering Techniques

Techniques for vaginal fingering and other clitoral stimulation

Labial Massage
Place a well lubricated hand over her labia, fingers pointing towards her anus. Pull up toward the navel and alternate hands. Explore the inner and outer lips with your fingers. Pull gently on one lip and then the other. Rub the outer lips gently between your forefinger and thumb, then the inner lips.
A-One and A-Two and a-Three
Try inserting your first two fingers into her vagina, then arch your thumb back 'hitch-hiker' style and thrust in until your thumb rests against her clitoris. Now wriggle, twist, thrust, and vibrate your hand to drive her wild.
Close But No Cigar
If your partner has a particular spot that they like to have licked or caressed, try doing so very close to but not quite on that spot. This trick will make them take longer to reach their orgasm, but they will likely have a much stronger, more powerful orgasm when they finally do.
Push Here to Start
Gently insert one finger deeply into her vagina and, when she's ready, insert a second. Then take your thumb and place it against her anus (Don't insert it). Press against her anus while you move your fingers inside her vagina.
Tap Dancing
Place the palm of your hand on her mons (the mound where her pubic hair is), and rest your fingers lightly on her vaginal lips. Rest your thumb on her thigh. Lightly but firmly press your palm onto her mons and begin to move your hand in a tiny circular motion. Your palm should not slide too much over her skin during this process. Rather, her skin should move underneath it. Repeat this process until you have done ten circles. You then raise your fingers and lightly tap her vaginal lips about once a second until you have given her ten taps. After giving the taps, rest your hand for five to ten seconds. Then repeat the whole routine over and over.
Cervix Clock
A woman's cervix can usually be found in the upper rear part of her vagina. The cervix feels like a little dome of tissue, and may also have a small cleft in the middle, like your chin. Carefully stimulate the area surrounding the cervix. Some women may enjoy this and want you to do it more often; others won't.
From the Outside
Lay your free hand over the lower part of your partner's abdomen. Experiment by applying different kinds of pressure with the top hand while fingers from your other hand are inside her vagina.

Female Ejaculation

There is only one mystery greater then that of the female orgasm, it is female ejaculation. We've all heard stories about friends who have been with women who can ejaculate, but how many of us have actually experienced it first hand? When asked to describe the ejaculations, responses are often quite similar, "It's liquid, it's clear, it's wet, and it squirts". Beyond this, the details have always been quite gray.
Let's begin by understanding what the elements of the ejaculate are. The four main ingredients are Glucose, prostatic acid phosphatase (an enzyme which is characteristic of the prostatic component of semen), urea, and creatinine. The last two ingredients are commonly found in urine, but are in lower levels than in urine. So there is some urine in the ejaculate. Some studies conclude that in some women the ejaculate is more like urine, and in other women it more like a prostate fluid. Until this question is answered fully, its safest to assume that it is a bit of both. The quantity of ejaculate can range from a few drops, to a shower of it.
Where does the ejaculate come from? There are several theories here on this, but remaining constant amongst all of them is that female ejaculation comes from G spot stimulation (please read G spot section for more information). When the G spot is stimulated over a period of time, the spongy tissue that creates this area fills with fluid. Women who can ejaculate often hold back, thinking that it is urine. The ejaculate does come out of the urethra, like urine, so that is where the confusion takes place.
So what's left? You might want to learn how to get someone to ejaculate, or how to do it yourself. Like exploring everything else new in your experience of sex, you should work towards it, but not put unnecessary stresses on yourself by making it your goal. Also, it is not known whether all women are able to ejaculate, so if you or your partner is unable to - don't worry, but perhaps keep trying once in a while. As you already know, the ejaculate comes out the urethra, so it feels a lot like urine. Apart from people who love golden showers, how many people do you know who feel comfortable enough to risk urinating on or around their partners? It may be a good idea to allow yourself or your partner some privacy to understand this function of their body; at the very least let your partner now that you are excited about it, not grossed out. That being said, great places to try this out include the shower or bathtub, in or near water, or on top of some old blankets that you don't mind getting wet.
Good luck - and please be sure to write in and share your experiences of this wonderful type of orgasm with others...